Watching friends grow up is fun, but it is hard when you can't enjoy it with them.
Well, I never watched them "grow up", I merely peered into a portion of their lives available on Facebook.
Well, I never watched them "grow up", I merely peered into a portion of their lives available on Facebook.
I suppose the worst part of not graduating on time , is watching all my friends get to do the kinds of things I wish I could. To be done with school, and finally move on in my relationships with friends and family.
Missing birthday parties, missing road trips , missing the hours of dress up before a night out on the town is not my idea of a good friend. Never being invited to a wedding, knowing darn well I will probably never get to be a bridesmaid to any of the people I once called "friends" is worrying. Wondering if I will ever get to feel like an adult makes me....
I often wonder how my friends afford it, perhaps by going into debt or turning to the Bank of "Parents" for cash. I do not think many of my friends work. Erica is finally getting serious about the boyfriend, Elsy Tee bought a new car, Tammy is an Engineer who likes to kayak in her spare time and three of my friends just changed their last names on Facebook.
I have vivid memories of our time on campus . I watched friendship flourish. A few lasted past college.
Talking with Laurita, an acquaintance who still keeps up with me, I realized you are lucky if you take from college just one good friend. Everyone else goes their separate ways. I asked her, how do we manage the changes in our relationships as we get older? Her advice was make time to see each other at least a few times a year, and play phone tag. What a good idea! I am already getting back to a few of my friends to plan a meet up on thanksgiving break, losing a few pounds and hopefully finding a job so the cost of seeing people I miss so much is defrayed and we can hang out.
Talking with Laurita, an acquaintance who still keeps up with me, I realized you are lucky if you take from college just one good friend. Everyone else goes their separate ways. I asked her, how do we manage the changes in our relationships as we get older? Her advice was make time to see each other at least a few times a year, and play phone tag. What a good idea! I am already getting back to a few of my friends to plan a meet up on thanksgiving break, losing a few pounds and hopefully finding a job so the cost of seeing people I miss so much is defrayed and we can hang out.
How do you keep up with your loves?
Regards,
Meranda Fallen
1 comment:
I totallly understand. I am going to graduate "late" as well. Well, I never considered it late. I just allways knew it was going to take me a year or two longer to gradaute. I am not proud of it but I need to get it done. My friends are all ready in to their fields...in china, france...or atleast one foot into the door, if anything. I feel like I'm slacking.
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